Are we like the driftwood floating in the ocean?

ARE WE LIKE DRIFTWOOD FLOATING IN THE SEA?

I had a sort of quirky conversation with someone yesterday about backstabbing. When she told me that most probably that someone was jealous of her, I replied that sometimes, it is not jealousy.

We are each different in every way and there is only one of us in this world, so we are unique in every sense in our very individual sense. Everyone has different values in life and our values may vary from time to time or even remain steadfast in so many ways. Yes, sometimes, people tend to analyse things too much. When I attended a coaching residential, the person in charge put analysing down to ' Anal lying'.  And that term stuck in my mind until now.

I am not saying she was 'Anal lying '. It all started with the person who had 'backstabbed' her. The person had gossipped about her to everyone she can, who would listen to her. This person , let us call her 'J'..had many issues of her own and she had wanted to be in control of everything at work and in life itself. She could not deal with life's many issues and she had relationship and health problems. J had put all her efforts to try to control other things and stuff  of that and who comes into her life.

The very reason that she does it , is she feels that she needs to ' conquer' the 'demons' in her life through channelling her thoughts and efforts on others. J could not control or manage what happens in her life and she thought by subconsciously' putting her energy to the things that she feel she is being put in charge of, would make her feel more of a success than a failure.

So J has diverted all her thoughts and energy towards her expectations of others whom she felt had to do better at work . So the person 'A' whom I had this conversation with , told me that she would be more aware of things that are going on. This was more of a real surprise to A as she had not realise all these issues at work before she came to me for counsel. It was only months after the session that she had understood what was going on.  A is a happy go lucky person and though I ' picked up ' the 'agro' at her workplace the last two months, I had only told her to be careful . I did not elaborate to her the seriousness of what was going on as I felt that she had to find out what was going on as she is on her journey in life. It was not life threatening and I feel each individual had to live their life's karma if they need to know forgiveness and be more aware.

So are we like ' driftwood' floating in the ocean waiting for someone to  rescue us and make something out of us. I had this thought last week. So what happened yesterday may  have something to do with what I thought about last week. What is interesting with driftwood is that it is light and that is why it floats with ocean's waves. If I imagine myself as a driftwood, it will feel like floating in the water with no cares in the world. I may land on a beautiful white sandy shore or I may carry with me loads of yucky substance and land on a dirty beach.

Some driftwood have been made into pieces of art...some still drifting with not a care in the world until they deteriorate and decompose.

The dirty driftwood that has the yucky substance is like the negative stuff that we choose to allow others in our life's journey to attach to us. It comes in the form of malignant gossip, bullying, judgement,  imposed emotional guilt and blackmail. The constant nagging of people who are 'winching' and complaining  about everything instead of counting their blessings.

Just tell oneself that people who are ' backstabbing' you , they are not worth worrying about. They have their own issues and whatever it is , that is their problem and not yours, even though it might concern you. When one reacts to another's rubbish, one will carry on the karma..so it never ends. If ones responses, are to delve into the deeper recesses of ones mind, and understand that as long as one is true to oneself , one do not have to worry about what the other person is about.... That is their problem and not yours.

Remember. someone Else's perception of us does not make it true to be who we actually are. When we are truly and consciously living our lives with awareness and with a conscience , We are responsible for our own actions and our perceptions and not by other people's.

It may be a lot to ask of ourselves to 'Bless And Let Those whom We had expectations of in Our Life to live their life they see fit'..but can we see the mirror reflection of our very own expectations of what we want others to be too?

Thank you for reading...

Love and Light Always,

THIS IS FOR YOU ....SORT IT OUT.

THIS IS FOR YOU...SORT IT OUT.

I remembered this morning that we are living in a parallel universe in so many ways. Let me explain my logic.

Last Sunday, my husband fixed a huge enough glass table for me to sort my crafting materials and tools and whatever that was needed to be organised in one room ..in one place.

Thus, the title came from him..'THIS IS FOR YOU..SORT IT OUT'.

It is Sunday and that means staying in sorting out stuff that needed to be organised. It is just like life in itself..everyday life. Every moment in our life when we are living consciously by being aware of what each moment brings to us, is a blessing. It is not only for that moment, that we can be grateful for what we have. It does not mean only material things. It includes our relationships, our awareness and everything that gives us life.

Just like life itself to sort out, our stuff are our tools to get on in life. The glass table represents the transparency of the platform stage that we live. Yes, it is large enough for us to live our lives. Our crafting tools are the gifts like our talents, our compassion, our senses, the air that we breathe and of course LIFE Itself.

So whilst sorting out and thankfully that I had lots of  ' Really Useful Boxes ' literally..the journey of seeing what is available in the boxes to use instead of to keep, was helpful to me.

If our really useful boxes represent the many areas in our life's of opportunities, relationships and the gifts that are present in us, we can awaken to use them in appropriate ways.

Each day, we can take a 'Box' in our life of opportunities and reflect on what we can do with this.

We can prioritise so that it would not be overwhelming to the excess of  opportunities that are available to us.

It is the same with relationships. Which relationship has outlived its 'expiry date' it there is any?

Relationships that can bring out the worst in us is not worth keeping. Are we hanging on to a relationship that hurt us, 'molly-coddle' us , that stops us from living our true selves. Are we staying in an abusive relationship for the fear of not being able to survive out there in the world? Abusive relationships come in many ways.  There are mentally abusive relationships where one may be told time and time again that one is not good enough in so many ways.  Ones partners may be manipulating one mentally and  one may feel 'stuck' or trapped believing that one is not able to move out of the abuse. Besides physical abuse, mental abuse by someone else..one is abusing ones life by participating in it. We have the freedom to choose to walk another path..

There are the 'Tools' in life for us to embrace. We can choose to confide in someone whom we can trust like a very good friend if we have one or a counsellor. Be aware that at the same time, there are other people who will not keep your 'secret' and who will or can share it with others through gossip.

Talk to your HIGHER SELF within you. Reflect and meditate if you can find the space and the silence..no matter how tired you are. Listen to the gentle voice with you..the voice that is good and positive.the voice that do no harm,the voice that encourages you to your authentic self.

If one has dark thoughts, one has to urgently seek help in so many ways. Spiritually, turn to God if you believe in God. I believe that God is a Being of Greatness present everywhere..just where you are. The simple Prayer is , ' GOD, I LEAVE EVERYTHING TO YOU'. Then listen to the Great Voice that comes  to comfort you...and experience that you will feel that is greater than anything that you have felt. Have faith that you are not alone always. Whether one is religious or not..it is good to have faith in the goodness that is available to us.

Through life experiences, I know that there is help and love in so many ways. I have been through some of life's darkest moments and each time ,there is always someone who is there for me. I know then that God wants me to live my life in a very special way... So does God want you to live your life in a very special way.

All of us are special in every way. Focus on our talents, gifts that are given to us. Everything comes to us from our creator. It may come through others but God is The Source from where All things happen to us in Our lives.

So go through your thoughts, your life and see what  needs 'DECLUTTERING'...

There is  true story of a woman whom seek ed the help of a well known author and healer. She had this headache that never went away. Through the healing session , she realised that she had kept letters all these years in a box in the attic. The letters were from someone whom she had loved but was scorned by him.

The attic represented the roof of her house. Your house is your body. the attic represents your head.

The letters represented the pain,hurt, and unforgiven past.

She decided that it was time to let go. She would destroy the letters and learn to forgive the past. She had absolutely treasured these letters in so many ways. She remained single all these years holding on to the negative experience.

Sadly to say, she died the day after...Was it sad or was it that she had learnt to let go but it came too late?

I feel that it is never too late .

Thank you for visiting...

Love And Light,

REMEMBERING WHO YOU REALLY ARE

You would have seen the bigger picture. You could choose to discard the behaviour that have kept you in bondage and trapped you.

You are now free to realise that all you need is yourself and God..

You are living, A Living Soul , you do not need to live your life by others.

You do not need to allow yourself to be fearful and be doing the things that are not true to you.

You can again choose to move forward in time , to work out what is really needed for you to do.

Remember they that have allowed you to entrap yourself are the very ones who you can let go.

You do not need them to survive in this world . It is a myth, I do hope that you will understand because there are many others who can do the same for you.

REMEMBER THAT THEY ARE NOT THE ULTIMATE AND DO NOT BE AFRAID BECAUSE GOD IS WITH YOU ALWAYS.

REMEMBER AND BE AWARE OF LIFE CHANGING SKILLS OF WHICH YOU SHOULD BE DOING.

TEACH AND LEARN THAT EVERY STEP OF THE WAY LEADS YOU TO A NEW BEGINNING AND IT WILL NEVER FAIL YOU.

 YOU ARE LOVED BUT DO NOT ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE ENTANGLED EMOTIONALLY.

BE SURE OF WHO YOU REALLY ARE.

YOU ARE A CHILD OF GOD.

YOU HAVE BEEN SEEKING TO KNOW GOD AND IT IS TIME YOU AWAKEN AND BE FREE TO KNOW GOD.

Stand up for yourself and achieve what is rightfully yours, to have and to give.

Select your people carefully, you will meet them soon.

There will be a deeper knowing of  TRUST  .....both sides. The feeling will be mutual.

You need to move on. The time is soon. Do not hesitate any longer.

You are needed to go out there and do your work that you have chosen to do.

DO NOT HESITATE ANY LONGER.

The door has been opened for you.

All you have to do is walk through it.

You are Always Divinely Guided.

PS :  A message for you to reflect only when you are ready to give what you came into this world to give and to share. When you are ready, be the person who can and will make a difference to the world that we live in.

Thank you for visiting....

Love , Light and Peace.

 WHAT IS THE BIGGER PICTURE?

When you have seen the 'Bigger Picture, you  could choose to discard the behaviour that have kept you in bondage and trapped you.

You are now free to realise that all you need is yourself.  You are a living, a Living Soul, you do not need to allow yourself to be fearful and doing things that are not true to yourself.

You can again choose to move forward in time, to work out what is really needed for you to do.

Remenber they who have allowed you to entrap yourself, are the very ones who can let you go.

You do not need them to survive in God's world.

It is a myth, I do hope you understand because there are many others who can do the same for you.

Remember that they are not the ultimate and do not be afraid because God is always with you.

Remember and be aware of Life Changing Skills. That is what you should be doing.

Teach and learn that every step of the way leads you to a new beginning, and it will never fail you.

You are loved but do not allow yourself to be entangled emotionally.

Be sure of who you really are.

You are a child of the Universe, a child of God, our Creator.

You have been seeking to know God and it is time you awaken and be free to know God.

Stand up for yourself and achieve what is rightfully yours, to have, to give.

Select your people carefully, you will meet them soon.

There will be a knowing of  ' Trust ' .  Both sides. The feeling will be mutual.

You will need to move on.  The time is soon....Do not hesitate longer.

You are needed  to go out there and do your work that you have chosen to do.

DO NOT HESITATE ANY  LONGER.

The door has been opened for you.

All you have to do is walk through it.

YOU ARE ALWAYS DIVINELY GUIDED.

PS: Reflect deeply with reverence of  whom you really are. If this message is for you, reflect on how you can make your world a much more special world. Begin with each thought, each action and each reaction that you would consciously choose to have.. Blessed be to All whom would consciously choose to make a difference in this world, and to those who are not very aware of their choices, blessed be to them too.

Thank you for visiting.

WHAT IS YOUR WILL?

WHAT IS YOUR WILL?

What is our will? I have asked myself many times especially so when I have had witnessed many incidents regarding this issue.

Take one scenario, where one is " Given the ' Death Sentence ' " by a medical doctor.

Each person will react or respond in different ways.  We may break down and cry or try to keep on a brave front and deal with it later. Either way, we have to deal with it sooner or later, depending on how long we have been 'Given'.

Thoughts swirl in our mind...everything just flashes in front of us.... the people whom we love...the things that we have not complete...the fear of dying....the thought of  ' How do we deal with this?' Do we tell someone or do we keep the news from the people whom we love? Do we put them in the equation of our pain and maybe anguish?

What is our will, written or emotional? What do we want to be specific in leaving behind....an inheritance of love, anguish....unforgiven....material stuff.....?

Do we tell the people whom matters, The stuff that we do not like about them or to so call advise them to live their lives as to our will.

Do we have honestly have the energy to do all of  the above or can we just give up and just let whatever will be to be?

We may make the necessary preparations to meet our Maker....we think we do.... we may even try to change the way we live, the way we eat and even the way we breathe and think.

Then we may start questioning ourselves with ' What is the Point?'

We may still feel the need to be in control of our 'situation'  and let our will be known before we are being prescribed the so call drugs that are supposed to kill off the disease, that makes us hallucinate.

People will turn up feeling sorry for us and try their best to give us well-meaning advice on our diets, even to the extent of giving us self -help books to give us some hope.

Some people stay away because they might not know how to deal with what you are going through.

Sometimes, we may turn people away because we do not want them to see us the way we are going to be in our final days.

Yes, death is private to us. We face death alone even though there are people around us. We do need to have our dignity and not be on public display when we take our last breath.

Then there are the so called people who think they care about you by telling you what to do with your will. There are even those who will selfishly give you the ultimatum of what they want you to do .

Yes, Seen it often...experienced it .

Even when you do make your will, there will be others who fight against our will when we are gone.

They disrespect our wills and think we are stupid or brain dead at the time that we make our wills. They contest against our will...try their best to convince the beneficiaries to do otherwise than what is required.

It may feel that when we are gone, we are gone forever. We are not able to have control over what goes on in the physical world after we depart.

WHAT IS THE POINT?

I had a very stressful few weeks with my face book account being compromised...person/s logging into my account...having to change the passwords for my e-mail and face book accounts nearly every few hours so much so that I did not have the energy to carry on writing.

That is a very long sentence, you may say or think but that is not nearly how long it was for me to get out of the anger mode to put these bullies behind me. Yes, very much so, these people who hijack our accounts are really bullies in their own world. They must have nothing to do except provoke feelings and testing our patience.

I do feel sorry for these people as they are practically thieves and peeping toms. What is their point?

What is their upbringing like? Do we blame their parents or themselves?

What are their needs that are not being met? What values do they have?  By bullying others, is it a compensation for what they are lacking?

I asked myself these questions. Well, I have realised that it is like anything else in life.

People do have different values definitely. What is their sense of achievement in their own right? Is there a monetary value to what they do, irregardless of other people's feelings?

Questions, questions, questions? I am not going to try even to understand their reasons for doing what they do BEST?

I can only now speak for myself from my very own experiences and values.

I had a very interesting conversation with my Mentor, John yesterday.  John is very good in helping others realise what is the underlying source of our behaviour/s .

He inspires me , is a gentleman and is honest and tactful without being in your face.

I am grateful to have him as my mentor. He is non-judgemental and so far one of the best coach that one can find.

I have for the past few years been thinking, contemplating my life...doing a sort of 'inventory' into my life's experience.

There is a point in life where I asked myself, ' What is the Point'? I am sure many of you have done so already in so many areas of our life especially in our relationships.

Have you felt that somehow sometime, you feel that you are just existing for others? Most people do not realise that they do exist for others.

These are the patterns in life that we fall into. We procrastinatee on so many things and then when we do finally take that first step in, let's say a project...and then we do not have the 'mood' to complete it.

We have all the ideas and then much more newer ideas and then we start on the other better ideas, and then we do not feel like completing them. We could stare at it all day  and something called, 'Guilt' says , 'You must complete your project'.

What causes guilt to come in? It is our belief patterns that have set in long time ago when we were younger..  Then we may realise that we do get bored with the unfinished projects and then it all goes into a cycle of ...Get the Stuff needed....Procrastinate....Work on it... Stop... must do it cause you spent money on it...then you lose interest....completely.

Underlying this behaviour is a need to achieve...in your own right. When you have a need to achieve for someone Else's sake and approval, it doe not happen so brilliantly. The negative energy that goes with the project makes it a failure., especially when one is not doing it for one's own values.

Do we need to measure our achievement as a monetary value always? Some of us do and some of us do not. Everyone has their own model of the world. It is what we choose to live with that makes our character.. Do we change our values to match other people's expectation of our capabilities or their capabilities?

We do set our own standards and the primary role is to look after number one  and that is ourselves.

Like John mentioned that when we are travelling on a plane, we are always told to put the oxygen mask first before others in case of emergency. It makes sense. We do have to help ourselves and know what we are doing and not be robot-like in our lives.

 When we try to achieve for somebody else to make them happy or to seek approval, we are not being true to ourselves unless we are doing it for us  according to our values and not others.

Another thing is to measure our sensitivity to other people's thoughts and behaviours. On a scale of one to ten....one being very sensitive to what others say and ten...not so sensitive to what others say.

Let us say the sensitivity gauge that we choose is four and four is not being all the way sensitive to what others say..because if we are truly vulnerable and sensitive, we would have acted accordingly to what others expect of us.

What is important is to ask ourselves,

 ' Who do I want to be?'

'What do I want to do?'

'What do I want to have?'

Our values are our sense of worthiness. Be motivated by our own values and we can choose to be less sensitive to other people/s needs ( Control ) at the expense of our own.

Be who we want to be and not what others want us to be.

A quote from John, " I AM HAPPY I'M USING MY TV REMOTE."

When one is in charge of your very own TV remote, one is in control of what one wants in their own model of the their world. If you have reached an age of adulthood, then ...what more do we want in life , then be in charge of our own lives and values.

Our needs are linked to feelings connected to other people but we do have to take responsibility for our own feelings.

We do not need to be an emotional slave and be responsible for other people's needs (Control).

Thank you for dropping by.

PS: This is just a summary of what I intended to write regarding  the above issues.  I will expand on the issues mentioned at another time.

Ms EliMaeO

Take responsibility.

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

I woke up very early this morning at 0430 hours. Could not go back to sleep. A thought came to me to pull out my journals from past years.

I was surprised to read what I had written in 2006. Fortunately, I had dated some of the pages written.

One of the pages had me thinking again. Whatever I had written in the past has now surfaced and is still valid in the present moment of my life. I would like to share with you what I had written and some articles were written during class...

I have a dream journal too and just reading snippets of it, I was blown away that some of the incidents in the dream journal had happened after 2006.

There are pages where I have written after meditation and asking MY HIGHER SELF  for answers.

This page is valid for me as I had only started blogging only recently. I will share the message that was given to me during the next few days. Let me dwell on it whether it is the right time to share this particular message as it is a very personal one to me. I will ask My Higher Self for the right answers.

Meanwhile, I will share with you the other pages..

TAKING RESPONSIBILITY

We give our power away when we blame another for our frustrations. No person,no place and no thing has any power over us, for 'we' are the only thinkers in it.

When we create peace and harmony and balance in our minds, we will find it in our lives.

We are each responsible for all the experiences that we have.

Every thought we think is creating our future. The point of power is always in the present moment.That is the 'PRESENT' we give ourselves.

Everyone suffers at different intervals in their lives from self-hatred and guilt.

The bottom line for everyone is, 'I am not good enough'.

It is only a thought and a thought can be changed. Resentment, criticism and guilt are the most damaging patterns. Releasing resentment will dissolve even the most dreaded dis-ease.

When we really love ourselves, everything in our lives works.

We must release the past and forgive everyone including ourselves which some of us find difficulty in doing so. Be gentle with ourselves and our conscience. It is no point to carry the burden of hatred, hurt, and anger with us. Just bury it all, bless all that has happened and release all that are not good for us.

We must begin to learn to love ourselves. Self approval and self acceptance is in the 'NOW' and are the 'KEYS' to positive changes.

We create every so- called illness in our body.

THE UNIVERSAL POWER NEVER JUDGES OR CRITICIZE US

The Universal Power accepts us at our own values, then it reflects our beliefs in our lives.

If I want to believe that life is lonely and that nobody loves me, then that is what I will find in my world.

However, if I am willing to release the belief and to affirm for myself that, ' LOVE IS EVERYWHERE, AND I AM LOVING AND LOVABLE ' and to hold onto this new affirmation and to repeat often, then it will become true for me.

Now loving people will come into my life, the people already in my life will become more loving to me, and I will find myself easily expressing love to others.

We are all victims of victims, and I will not blame our parents and they would not possibly have taught us anything that they did not know. If your mother did not know how to love herself, or your father did not know how to love himself, then it would be impossible for them to teach you to love yourself.

They were doing the best they could with what they have and had been taught as children themselves. If you want to understand your parents more, get them to talk about their childhood, and if you listen with compassion,you will learn where their fears and rigid patterns come from.

Those people who did all that stuff to you were just as frightened and scared as you.

If we choose to believe that we are helpless victims and that it is all hopeless, then The Universe will support us in that belief. and we will just go down the emotional drain.

It is vital that we release these foolish, outmoded, negative ideas and beliefs that do not support and nourish us in any way.

Even our concept of God needs to be one that is for us, not against us.

Thank you for reading....Peace and Blessings.

EliMaeO

3rd Chapter...Letting go....

Letting go can be most difficult for most....if not all....How do we start?

Perhaps we can start with our emotions... because everything is about emotions which in the first place give us the feelings ....

How do we let go of our emotions? There are many ways to let go of our emotions...

It is not good to suppress our emotions but at the same time we have to manage our emotions.

Life is a journey of emotions... It comes in different waves...sometimes it is calm, sometimes it is like a lullaby, sometimes it comes crashing unexpectedly...it hits us in the place we call our 'Solar Plexus'.

It makes one feel sick and queasy...that is why sometimes we hear the term," I can't stomach it. "

Even though we may think or feel that we know how to manage our emotions, when we get that wave that crashes against the pit in our stomach, one can feel that it is like the end ..the end of everything...whatever it might stand for...

Everyone might react differently to circumstances but everyone feels pain in different measures. Whoever says they understand one's pain does not know what they are talking about as no-one can feel your pain or my pain...

By the way, every one's threshold of pain is different... So please never say you understand some one's pain.

Letting go is a painful process but it is good to do it for our sanity and our health...

There are many ways of letting go.. It all depends on one's circumstance or issues and how one wants to do it....

One of the ways of letting go is releasing your emotions if one needs to cry , then cry...let your tears flow.....have your private time of crying...It is great for the soul..it is great for health...but remember to be gentle and kind to ourselves after that.

There is so much to say...then say it... either by writing..you can decide whether it is worth sending it to whoever or it might be best to keep the note for a few days and then choose to make a conscious decision whether to send the note...

Just remember writing a provoking note to blame or even a note to curse and swear the 'Living daylights' out of someone may be good for one to release all the pent up emotion but sending it to the someone will antagonise the relationship all the more...so my advise is ....do not send it...Just burn the note after a few days..

Write a reply to yourself of what you would like to hear from that someone.

One might be surprised by the contents especially it one is honest with one's feelings.. After all the script is yours....you are in charge.

Just take note that we have no control over other people's feelings but we can have control over ours.

We can speak to someone we trust when we most need it or arrange to speak to a counsellor if you want to keep it private...

One has to be honest and find someone who can empathise but not sympathise.. We do not need pity... we need strength to move through the waves of our journey..

Peace be with all.

WE ARE HERE BY DIVINE APPOINTMENT

WE ARE HERE BY DIVINE APPOINTMENT

I feel that we are here by Divine Appointment definitely. Each of us are assigned to be and to do whatever we need to be and do.

If we truly reflect on the past and the present, we will find reasons to believe so.

I know from my very personal experience that it is so. Whatever my experiences have been so far have always been a step forward. It is like being part of a jigsaw of the whole of  The Universe.

Each and everyone, we meet somehow fits into our life by Divine Appointment.

We are in each other lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime/ and a lifetime.

Somehow, when people 'Opt' out of our lives for whatever reasons, we must remember that it is never for the reasons that we think they do.

We do reach a crossroad in our lives time and time again.  Each time we choose a path consciously or subconsciously, we live different experiences.  No crossroad is right or wrong, it is just the experience that we need to  fulfill in our lives.

Imagine a light bulb just like the twinkling Christmas lights that some of  make use of for the Christmas tree.  Imagine that each one of us is a bulb in the whole line of Christmas lights.

What will happen it one bulb does not light up? We have to change it in order for the whole string of lights to work.

So each of us is very important to fulfill whatever is needed of us to carry on the spark that is so needed in this world.

Even though, some of us would want to give up when we face a 'taxing' time, we still belong to the Universe even though some have left through 'death' for whatever reason.

I feel that we have to remind ourselves that whatever we decide to choose to do with our lives, it will be like a 'domino' effect to the rest of the world.

One important thing is to remember who we truly are. We have choices..even by not making a choice , we would have chosen not to make a choice.

We can only answer to ourselves because that is the experience that we choose to have by our response or our reactions.

We can choose to respond or to react.  Responding to a situation is different than reacting.

When we choose to respond, we know what we we want to say or do...i.e. we do choose to think what is the best way for the Highest good of all concerned.

When we choose to react, usually it is through our ego that recognises the fear and the anger that is already latent in us. Ego is ' Easing God Out' .

We do forget that there is only One Power when we choose to react and that this power is God.

Let me explain.. When we choose to react from fear or anger, we think the situation or the other person/s have more power over us, so much so that we strongly feel that we must take control of the situation  so as to justify whatever we feel.

The perpetrators in our lives are our greatest teachers.

Each time, we are made to feel stronger from our experiences when we choose to respond from a higher point of consciousness.

We can choose to 'Bless'  our perpetrators and  'Let them go' or we can choose to keep them in our journey throughout our lives.

Everything is a choice..So we can choose to make our choices foolishly, intentionally or wisely guided by our Higher Self of Consciousness.

Thank you for visiting.  Peace be with You And All.

SOME PEOPLE LOVE THE WAY THEY LIVE THEIR LIVES WITH LIES AND A SKELETON OR SKELETONS IN THEIR CLOSET.

Some people love the way they live their lives with lies and skeletons in their closet.

It is sad to know that when someone is so dishonest with how they live their lives with lies and more lies. They do think that no one knows that they are lying or even worst , they do not care whether you know or not. When they do not care, that means , you do not matter at all to them,,,it is all about them.

The only fear that they might have is being found out by their nearest and dearest. They would lie or keep everything going as normal as they could because they feel that they are smarter and can outdo anyone else in their life.

They must love their life and lies knowingly or unknowingly. Some will even deny certain truths to save their own 'skin' when they are found out.

In the end, the result is it shows on their face, i.e. their harshness and hardiness and yet some are in denial , thinking that they are still so good looking. Yes, they may be only good looking to themselves but the whole world can see it in them..

Obviously, they do not know themselves very well or they are in very, very deep denial about their behaviour.

So sad, so very sad... when someone do not know that their character flaws show the hatefulness in what they represent.

They are never ever happy and they are always envious of others... Sometimes, other people just walk away from it all. These other people do not need this relationships.. These other people who choose to walk away are the very ones who know that they no longer can help the one who is living  a big lie.

These other people know the truth about the lies and they do not condone such behaviour and they know that they can never ever trust them again.

It is so painful to try to analyse the behaviour of people who is living a lie or a life of  lies.

It is their very own personal karma.. they get what they deserve in the end....always..

Do you know of someone like that?

What will you do when you do know?

When you are aware, how can you choose to change the way things are?

The only deceit that is going to happen to you is to be in denial.

Thank you for dropping by.

The person who pushes your buttons is actually teaching you something

This day at about 2am, I started my blog entry with the Infinite Way of Lifeelizabethrayney.

I realised that I needed to do something that will or might help all in some kind of way.

I recall just a few years ago when Debbie Smith who is a Facilitator and Practitioner in Metaphysics encouraging me to present a talk at Isis on the topic about relationships.

Yes, I was very excited, nervous but wanting to know how the talk would be received by the attendees.

Philip, the owner of Isis decided that the title would be " RELATIONSHIPS " as it was to be held on the 12th of February, just two days before Valentine's day.

I was told to prepare fliers with an eye-catching diagram and captivating words to attract the eyes and mind of potential attendees.

As nervous as I was since my very first presentation in front of a very big group of people more than 17 years or so, I knew I had to pass this egoistic barrier of fear and nervousness.

I know it is not about me....the ego stands for ' Easing God Out '.  Nervousness is also part of the ego and I was not prepared to let my 'ego' stand in my way.

I reminded myself to let The Holy  Spirit within me to Guide me for the Highest good of all concerned.
I dwelt on my fears and realised the link to a statement made by someone years before that ' I do not do what I preach. '  This particular person had never liked me even how hard I tried to please him..Only now, after years of  learning and being away from the ' well ' itself..I have learnt that I do not need any one's approval of Who or Whom I would want to be. I was always 'drowning' in that person's shadow.

I realised then, the healing had begun and I was ready to let go of the hurts and the not very nice part of my past...Bless them and let them go for the greater good of all concerned.

This was to be my future, the past is my lessons in life, whatever it was, I am not allowing the 'what ifs and what not's to stop me in my endeavours.

Part of my journey did end in tears and fears of what my future would be. I realised that I am not a person who gives up on me. This is the relationship between myself and me that I need to nurture.. I do have a silent strength, an inner strength that is not displayed outwardly especially to others whom do not know me well enough.

I came to another awakening that I do not need to justify my actions to anyone except to be responsible for the choices I made or make. It is good enough for me.. I feel that I have come a long, long way.

Before I present the talk with all the preparation, I put it up to The Universe that twelve people would be fine for me. It was a matter of trust and faith that the ' right' people would hear me and I would be right for them too at that moment in time.

A so called friend asked me, " How can you give a talk on relationships when you have issues of your own?'
That was a ' light bulb' moment for me. It gave me food for thought.
It was not about issues with others but more with myself.  I was once told that I need to love myself and learn to give to myself and receive graciously. The most important receiver and giver is oneself.

Whatever was happening out there was with a realisation that ' LAW OF ATTRACTION ' in place all the time.

I made it successfully..Six people signed up and paid before the talk itself, another six turned up when the talk was about to begin..
I knew then the miracle is happening especially when we have good intentions .

Amongst the twelve, there was a mother and son present. I knew whomever was present was mirroring whatever that was happening in my life at that time..I believe with God's sense of humour, He is showing me The Way.

The healing had begun in so many ways in all the aspects of my life. The answers were there, loud and clear.

And yes, coming to the person who pushes my buttons....She was present.  A few days before the presentation, we were having dinner at her place. She announced, ' It would be difficult to understand your accent.' As she walked away from me, she quickly said ' Someone said so .'

My response was  I had told none of my other friends or people that I knew that I was holding this presentation except the three of us whom was present in the room and of course Debbie and my partner..Who else could say that about me?  My defense went up, I was hurt , then angry at the remark she made.

She made no effort to 'redeem' herself in any way. On my way home, I confided in my other friend that perhaps I should give up the idea of holding the presentation.
My friend told me to go ahead with it. the next day at another meeting with another group of people, the topic of accent was coincidentally brought up by someone else whom was told the same thing.
There is no coincidences...it is meant to be.. We had a little discussion and I realised that though I was foreigner in that country, the locals have their distinctive accent too and so did the person who pushed my buttons. She was another foreigner and it was sometimes difficult to understand her too.

Thanks to her especially and to the support of people whom wanted me to get the message across, I decided to go ahead with the presentation . I turned away her offer of helping me in any way. My request to her was to not say anything during my talk .

For the first time in my life then, I had begun a new path where I took action and spoke up without fear of being confrontational, something that I do not condone. I spoke up for myself and chose then not to be a 'sponge or magnet for others to put me down consistently..

She knew she was pushing my buttons. If anyone knew me well enough, they know me as a kind , loving, respectful person and obliging most times.. I do try my best but if I do 'fail' in some way, I know somehow I am a spiritual being having a human experience.

The person who pushed my buttons was teaching me something more.. It was because of what she said and did, that gave me  ideas for my presentation.
 So the lesson here is to step back out of the bubble that we are in and  reflect what is it that the person is pushing.

They are our 'teachers' in hindsight.

Ask oneself, ' WHAT DO I NEED TO KNOW FROM THIS LESSON?'

                  'WHAT CAN BE DONE TO MOVE FORWARD TOWARDS OUR GOALS?'

                    ' HOW DO WE MOVE FORWARD WITH THE ACTION PLAN?'

                    ' WHEN WILL WE START THE FIRST STEP TOWARDS THE ACTION PLAN?'

                   ' WHAT ARE THE CHANGES THAT ONE NEED TO MAKE IN ORDER TO
                      FULFILL THAT DREAM OF OURS?'

                    'WHOM CAN WE COUNT TO SUPPORT US WITH OUR GOALS AND
                    ASPIRATIONS?'

OUR JOURNEY IN LIFE IS OUR VERY OWN. WHOM WE WANT TO SHARE IT WITH, IS OUR CHOICE, HOW WE WANT OUR LIFE TO BE IS ALSO OUR CHOICE. BY NOT MAKING A CHOICE IS ALSO A CHOICE. WE ARE OUR VERY OWN MAIN ACTOR/ACTRESS..SO YOU CAN DECIDE WHOM OR WHO WILL BE YOUR SUPPORTING CAST.. THE STAGE OF LIFE IS YOURS AND WELCOME TO THE UNIVERSITY OF LIFE  ITSELF. like MY FRIEND JENNIFER BERNARD SAID WHEN IT IS TIME TO GET RID OF THE DEADWOOD IN YOUR LIFE, MAKE A CONSCIOUS DECISION TO DO IT IF YOU FEEL YOU NEED TO ESPECIALLY WHEN IT IS NOT SERVING YOU FOR THE GREATER  GOOD OF ALL CONCERNED...

Thank you for reading.... May you choose the path that will serve you well when you come to that crossroads... there is no right or wrong path..just different lessons and experiences in life..

MUCH LOVE,

Sincerely,

Elimae

The Infinite Way of Life

Hello to you reading my blog....I like reading 'The Infinite Way of Life' by Joel S Goldsmith...

' LIFE KNOWS NO LIMITATION WHATSOEVER.'

When our consciousness rises to that place of devotion where God is God to us, only for the sake of God, that is when we have attained  THE INFINITE WAY OF LIFE.'

I will try to reflect on these sentences every time I get the chance and when it becomes a daily habit of remembering to return within one's consciousness of whom we really are, it calms us and reminds us that we are not alone in our journey of life..

Loneliness is different than aloneness... It is a longing for someone to understand us or it is feeling alone without someone to talk about and share certain insights without feeling the need to have anyone besides us.

Think about what I have just said... If you do comprehend the deeper meaning of what I have said, then you would have understood where I am coming from and most probably  you  have been to that place many times before.

Talk about 'The light bulb moment/s' or 'The Aha moment/s.

To seek healing in anyway, we must come to the realisation of self surrender.

  " I SEEK NOTHING BUT THEE, I MUST KNOW THEE WHOM TO KNOW ARIGHT IS LIFE ETERNAL. LET ME LIVE AND MOVE AND HAVE MY BEING IN THEE, AND I CAN ACCEPT WHATEVER ELSE MAY COME, WHAT DIFFERENCE THEN, WILL IT MAKE IF I HAVE A BODY OR DO NOT HAVE A BODY, IF I AM HEALTHY OR UNHEALTHY? " IN THE PRESENCE IS FULLNESS OF LIFE."

"......" are quoted from Joel S Goldsmith

I wish us Inner Peace and Peace be with You..

Thank you for taking the time to read....

Warmest regards with Love,

EliMae