Tuesday, 6 November 2012

Hello everyone,

Yes, I have been away from this blog for some time...Life catches on with courses, everyday stuff and more stuff...

Well, I will try to post as time permits me and just a few minutes ago, I found a page that was given to me but I do not know who is the person who composed the essay.

When someone is in your life for a REASON , usually it to meet a need you have expressed inwardly or outwardly.   They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.
They may seem like God-Send and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.
Then , without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled and their work is done.
The prayer you send up has been answered and it is time now to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON , because our turn has come to share, grow , or learn. They may bring you an experience of Peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of Joy.
Believe it! It is real! But only for a reason.
Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway ) and put what you have learnt to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.
It says that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life.
PS: I thank the person who wrote this ..I had this for many years and only just found it as I was looking for something to work with feelings and emotions. How apt to find this page afte all these years.. I believe there is God...Thank you . I someone knew who wrote this, maybe you can let me know.
With Much Love,

Tuesday, 3 April 2012



Will it make any difference to one’s life if we choose not to live with the regrets that we create at this moment in our lives for when we reach our seventies if we make it to that mark?

Or we might not even give a toss as we may not have the mental capacity to care anymore by then.

Well,  We can choose to sit and decide what we want to do before seventy if we can live to that age.

What do we want from our lives?

Will it be Inner Peace, Self Love, Sense of Oneness, Sense of Fulfillment, Sense of Being, Sense of Worthiness?

Will part of our mind that wants to get back into Wholeness object to making a great change in what we are doing now in our lives?

If a part of our mind is objecting to making a change  i.e.  we may still be living in the past and not being able to move forward for the highest good of all concerned and we have not dealt with our ‘demons’.

We can choose to stay in a rut or we can choose to keep it safe and live with regrets if our lives are not what we truly want.

If you are reading this, obviously you have the capacity to decide and you have the freedom to be who you are. You would not be reading this if you do not have the freedom or independence to do so.

Everyone will live with regrets unless we take action to go forth to change the things that need changing if must be. We may be creating our regrets now  for not choosing to live our lives truthfully to our values.

How are we going to live the rest of our lives from this moment on?

Are we going to continue kidding ourselves with our addictions to replace our emptiness that we feel inside ourselves?

Are we going to continue seeking pleasures outside ourselves by indulging in accumulating much more so called material needs and not give a hoot to the environment or other people around us?

At the end of it all, when we are on our deathbed if we are lucky enough to be conscious that we are dying, what will we be thinking of?

 Will we sort of regret not working hard enough , or not being able to ‘own ‘ the latest gadget or have the latest hairstyle?

Well, maybe it is time to sit and listen in Silence to what we need to do before the age of seventy?

There is one Life and we can live authentically or we can live with authentically with regrets.

If  for one moment if we dare to write our very own eulogy, what will it be?

What will we want to be remembered for? 

What legacy do we want to live behind us?

What do you want to be written on your tombstone ?

Everything is a choice as long as we have the mental capacity and the freedom to decide.

Thank you  for Being....


Thursday, 15 March 2012

Emotional Slavery

Well. it has been sometime now  that I have posted anything  but I have not stopped writing. I have been dwelling on uncertainty for some time now. I believe that 'Uncertainty' is not a thing but it is a feeling.
For me , it is like reaching a crossroad and not being able to decide which path to take. It takes a longer time to dwell on the issues surrounding the topic of 'uncertainty'.

Though it is only a feeling, it is not a very nice one  expecially when it concerns other people in our very circle of life. I feel that I can only help to make myself feel better by not being an emotional slave to anyone or any events that is not within my control.

Fortunately, I have very good friends, relatives, two mentors and my sanity to help me along my journey.
They have one very good value and that is patience . Patience to allow me to be where I am and respect my ' space'.
 I have realised what I have been for the last couple of years during a conversation with one of my mentors, John.
I have been an emotional slave to certain people. It was not getting any better for my self worth if I had carried on with 'sitting' with the feeling longer than usual.

When we allow ourselves to be emotional slaves, we allow others to dictate to us what their model of the world is.

We  lose connection with Self.

As John brought up the analogy of the labels that we see on  containers or bottles, he brought to light what I have been doing with myself.

This is John's analogy:-

For one moment, visualise oneself as a container with a label or labels. The labels are what other people's perception are about us. They would perceive the contents as they see and read the labels of what they would like to 'purchase' or not. Even if after purchasing the item , they might not like it. Even if they like it, they might heap praises and 'recommend' the product to others. If they dislike the product, they would spread the news ( gossip ) that the product is not good.

So what is important?

 We have to be comfortable with our very own 'Identity' i.e. our 'label'. If we are the 'stuff' in the bottle/container, would we not choose to know ourselves?
Would we not want to like ourselves for our values, believes, concerns, needs, capabilities and so on?
So if we do not 'like' ourselves and are dependent on what others perceive of us, then what reason is it for them to approve of us?

When I say 'like' , I mean approve. As long as we approve of our values, needs , behaviour, time, identity, environment ( where we are in the moment  ) , need we have others to 'label' us?

Our needs affect our feelings. Our feelings make us vulnerable. If we have people who do not meet any of our needs, do we need them labeling us with their own model of their world?

Even if we are consciously or sub-consciously following a 'Spiritual Path' do we need to stay in dysfunctional relationships that 'do' us no- good?

It will be likened to having drugs for the sake of being nice to people who are 'not doing us any good'.
There are people who time and time again 'put us down' by criticising us even though we have tried our best.
We can choose not to risk our sanity on the 'judgement' of others.
We can change and be happy with our very own code of ethics.
Be aware that no one can change us except ourselves. No one can frustrate us except ourselves.
So  we can reflect on our very own identity and know our values .
When we choose to live our lives according to our values, we are capable to escape the 'pain' of needing other people's approval of who we really are.
When our code of ethics, code of conduct, code of values. rules that we live by and positive beliefs are not met within us, we may feel an incongruence in our body. It is a sort of 'sick' feeling that could be felt in the solar plexus or anywhere else in the body. Just pay attention to what your body is telling you.

CREATE  a ' LABEL'  of WHO YOU ARE... Know thyself.



ASK YOURSELF WHICH 'ENVIRONMENT' YOU WANT TO BE AT i.e your surrounding area where you breathe and live and be.

Stick your label inside a jar and read it on a daily basis.


is our human identity.

Never be a dustbin for other people's woes.

A thought for us to be conscious of :-

Notice that when we use the word I consciously, we may be able to realise that the ' I  ' is more than what we think we are.
 We can say I feel but if we say ' I AM ', be conscious of what we are saying.


Thank you for passing by..