FACING DEATH ?

It is quite nerve wrecking to have a medical diagnosis for everyone especailly if it is not music to the ears.

We can 'deny ' all the diagnosis or 'come to terms' with it.

We may feel that we would not want anyone else to know what we are going through but , can we?

It feels such a lonely path but in fact one does go through it alone with the feelings, pain , anguish and fears.

What do we do?  Sit with our fears, bawl our eyes out, fear the worst, let our minds go into an overdrive?

What is the fear really ? 

Fear of leaving our families, friends and loved ones behind , especially when we have responsibilities and commitments?

What are we commited to? 

What are the responsibilities?

We feel that we may 'need' to make a 'checklist' of  'to dos'.

I know...it's all the questions that run through our mind. 

It does not make us feel better.. We want someone to give us the answers to all our questions.

Whom would that be to have all the answers?

We can choose to be kind to ourselves and be with people who are gentle, loving, caring and supportive in all ways without  ' transferring ' their fears to us.

We can choose to be alone and lonely by 'cutting our nose to spite our face' and refuse all care and support.

We can choose to 'bite the hands that feed us '. 

Do we need to be nasty and bitter to others when we are ill ?

Do we need to push others away?

No one will have the answers for us. 

We can choose 'Peace' and its Inner Peace that we can give to ourselves.

There are help, counsellors, district nurses , Macmillian Nurses, the GP, the Specialists....

Open our hearts to the help and care...we can be dignified with being humble.

Love and Hugs,

MsEliMaeO

22/12/2013

Loving What Is With Grace.

LOVING WHAT IS, WITH GRACE

Hello Friends,

I have been living Life as what Life gives to me but with Consciousness.  I have realised so much in my journey of behaviours, attitudes and values with others I have met and dealt with in my daily living.

I am sure many of us have heard about the Law of Reflection.  Life mirrors to us what we feel, fear, dislike, judge, love , hate, or think about.

Sometimes, it is never easy to keep finding out within ourselves when time and time again, people around us show or behave in ways that we strongly dislike. The more we 'STRONGLY' dislike some behaviour, attitude or person , the more it 'gets into our face'.

It can make us feel uncomfortable and bring out the 'shadow ' within us that we kept hidden.

We may choose to react to certain events or people who trigger our 'emotional buttons' in a way that we feel uncomfortable.

We could check within our Consciousness of our Nature , Sit with the Feeling and take a couple of breathes and 'Listen' to our Highest Consciousness to what surfaces , emotionally.

We can choose to remember that we are of Love and take it from there. Sit with the emotions and feel what comes up . Do it in a safe environment .i.e do it with kindness and Love for yourself and everyone concerned. Take time and reflect.

The answers will surface if we but listen and usually it can only bring us Peace, Yes an Inner Peace.

No one can get Inner Peace from outside of themselves.

Thank the chatter in your mind and Listen to The Greater Mind, the Silent Peace that calms us to a Peace of Grace. Listen to the peaceful answers that come from within . What is 'negative' is never from a Higher Self and deep down inside, we Know what is Rightfully ours to know and  love.

If our intent is Love, when we listen to our Inner Self where The Greater Being resides within , Our Love evolves to a ' Plane' that only we can understand. 

We will learn to speak our 'Truth' and seek to share Peace with others even though at times , we are given tests and tribulations to overcome.

We will be able to choose to make rational decisions for the Highest Good of  All concerned. 

Let us start with Peace within us and share this Love of Intent to ripple out towards our fellowmen or women.

Love and Light always,

 MsEliMaeO

Hello everyone,

Yes, I have been away from this blog for some time...Life catches on with courses, everyday stuff and more stuff...

Well, I will try to post as time permits me and just a few minutes ago, I found a page that was given to me but I do not know who is the person who composed the essay.

 

REASON, SEASON OR LIFETIME

 

When someone is in your life for a REASON , usually it to meet a need you have expressed inwardly or outwardly.   They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually.

 

They may seem like God-Send and they are.  They are there for the reason you need them to be.

Then , without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.

 

Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.

What we must realise is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled and their work is done.

The prayer you send up has been answered and it is time now to move on.

 

When people come into your life for a SEASON , because our turn has come to share, grow , or learn. They may bring you an experience of Peace or make you laugh.

They may teach you something you have never done.

They usually give you an unbelievable amount of Joy.

Believe it! It is real! But only for a reason.

 

Lifetime relationships teach you lifetime lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.

Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway ) and put what you have learnt to use in all other relationships and areas of your life.

It says that love is blind, but friendship is clairvoyant.

 

Thank you for being a part of my life.

 

PS: I thank the person who wrote this ..I had this for many years and only just found it as I was looking for something to work with feelings and emotions. How apt to find this page afte all these years.. I believe there is God...Thank you . I someone knew who wrote this, maybe you can let me know.

 

With Much Love,

MsEliMaeO



WILL IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

WILL IT MAKE A DIFFERENCE?

Will it make any difference to one’s life if we choose not to live with the regrets that we create at this moment in our lives for when we reach our seventies if we make it to that mark?

Or we might not even give a toss as we may not have the mental capacity to care anymore by then.

Well,  We can choose to sit and decide what we want to do before seventy if we can live to that age.

What do we want from our lives?

Will it be Inner Peace, Self Love, Sense of Oneness, Sense of Fulfillment, Sense of Being, Sense of Worthiness?

Will part of our mind that wants to get back into Wholeness object to making a great change in what we are doing now in our lives?

If a part of our mind is objecting to making a change  i.e.  we may still be living in the past and not being able to move forward for the highest good of all concerned and we have not dealt with our ‘demons’.

We can choose to stay in a rut or we can choose to keep it safe and live with regrets if our lives are not what we truly want.

If you are reading this, obviously you have the capacity to decide and you have the freedom to be who you are. You would not be reading this if you do not have the freedom or independence to do so.

Everyone will live with regrets unless we take action to go forth to change the things that need changing if must be. We may be creating our regrets now  for not choosing to live our lives truthfully to our values.

How are we going to live the rest of our lives from this moment on?

Are we going to continue kidding ourselves with our addictions to replace our emptiness that we feel inside ourselves?

Are we going to continue seeking pleasures outside ourselves by indulging in accumulating much more so called material needs and not give a hoot to the environment or other people around us?

At the end of it all, when we are on our deathbed if we are lucky enough to be conscious that we are dying, what will we be thinking of?

 Will we sort of regret not working hard enough , or not being able to ‘own ‘ the latest gadget or have the latest hairstyle?

Well, maybe it is time to sit and listen in Silence to what we need to do before the age of seventy?

There is one Life and we can live authentically or we can live with authentically with regrets.

If  for one moment if we dare to write our very own eulogy, what will it be?

What will we want to be remembered for? 

What legacy do we want to live behind us?

What do you want to be written on your tombstone ?

Everything is a choice as long as we have the mental capacity and the freedom to decide.

Thank you  for Being....

MsEliMaeO

Emotional Slavery

EMOTIONAL SLAVERY

Well. it has been sometime now  that I have posted anything  but I have not stopped writing. I have been dwelling on uncertainty for some time now. I believe that 'Uncertainty' is not a thing but it is a feeling.

For me , it is like reaching a crossroad and not being able to decide which path to take. It takes a longer time to dwell on the issues surrounding the topic of 'uncertainty'.

Though it is only a feeling, it is not a very nice one  expecially when it concerns other people in our very circle of life. I feel that I can only help to make myself feel better by not being an emotional slave to anyone or any events that is not within my control.

Fortunately, I have very good friends, relatives, two mentors and my sanity to help me along my journey.

They have one very good value and that is patience . Patience to allow me to be where I am and respect my ' space'.

 I have realised what I have been for the last couple of years during a conversation with one of my mentors, John.

I have been an emotional slave to certain people. It was not getting any better for my self worth if I had carried on with 'sitting' with the feeling longer than usual.

When we allow ourselves to be emotional slaves, we allow others to dictate to us what their model of the world is.

We  lose connection with Self.

As John brought up the analogy of the labels that we see on  containers or bottles, he brought to light what I have been doing with myself.

This is John's analogy:-

For one moment, visualise oneself as a container with a label or labels. The labels are what other people's perception are about us. They would perceive the contents as they see and read the labels of what they would like to 'purchase' or not. Even if after purchasing the item , they might not like it. Even if they like it, they might heap praises and 'recommend' the product to others. If they dislike the product, they would spread the news ( gossip ) that the product is not good.

So what is important?

 We have to be comfortable with our very own 'Identity' i.e. our 'label'. If we are the 'stuff' in the bottle/container, would we not choose to know ourselves?

Would we not want to like ourselves for our values, believes, concerns, needs, capabilities and so on?

So if we do not 'like' ourselves and are dependent on what others perceive of us, then what reason is it for them to approve of us?

When I say 'like' , I mean approve. As long as we approve of our values, needs , behaviour, time, identity, environment ( where we are in the moment  ) , need we have others to 'label' us?

Our needs affect our feelings. Our feelings make us vulnerable. If we have people who do not meet any of our needs, do we need them labeling us with their own model of their world?

Even if we are consciously or sub-consciously following a 'Spiritual Path' do we need to stay in dysfunctional relationships that 'do' us no- good?

It will be likened to having drugs for the sake of being nice to people who are 'not doing us any good'.

There are people who time and time again 'put us down' by criticising us even though we have tried our best.

We can choose not to risk our sanity on the 'judgement' of others.

We can change and be happy with our very own code of ethics.

Be aware that no one can change us except ourselves. No one can frustrate us except ourselves.

So  we can reflect on our very own identity and know our values .

When we choose to live our lives according to our values, we are capable to escape the 'pain' of needing other people's approval of who we really are.

When our code of ethics, code of conduct, code of values. rules that we live by and positive beliefs are not met within us, we may feel an incongruence in our body. It is a sort of 'sick' feeling that could be felt in the solar plexus or anywhere else in the body. Just pay attention to what your body is telling you.

CREATE  a ' LABEL'  of WHO YOU ARE... Know thyself.

WHAT ARE YOUR VALUES?

WHAT ARE YOUR POSITIVE CAPABILITIES?

ASK YOURSELF WHICH 'ENVIRONMENT' YOU WANT TO BE AT i.e your surrounding area where you breathe and live and be.

Stick your label inside a jar and read it on a daily basis.

I

ME

MY

MYSELF

is our human identity.

Never be a dustbin for other people's woes.

A thought for us to be conscious of :-

Notice that when we use the word I consciously, we may be able to realise that the ' I  ' is more than what we think we are.

 We can say I feel but if we say ' I AM ', be conscious of what we are saying.

BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF.

Thank you for passing by..

MsEliMaeO







Are we like the driftwood floating in the ocean?

ARE WE LIKE DRIFTWOOD FLOATING IN THE SEA?

I had a sort of quirky conversation with someone yesterday about backstabbing. When she told me that most probably that someone was jealous of her, I replied that sometimes, it is not jealousy.

We are each different in every way and there is only one of us in this world, so we are unique in every sense in our very individual sense. Everyone has different values in life and our values may vary from time to time or even remain steadfast in so many ways. Yes, sometimes, people tend to analyse things too much. When I attended a coaching residential, the person in charge put analysing down to ' Anal lying'.  And that term stuck in my mind until now.

I am not saying she was 'Anal lying '. It all started with the person who had 'backstabbed' her. The person had gossipped about her to everyone she can, who would listen to her. This person , let us call her 'J'..had many issues of her own and she had wanted to be in control of everything at work and in life itself. She could not deal with life's many issues and she had relationship and health problems. J had put all her efforts to try to control other things and stuff  of that and who comes into her life.

The very reason that she does it , is she feels that she needs to ' conquer' the 'demons' in her life through channelling her thoughts and efforts on others. J could not control or manage what happens in her life and she thought by subconsciously' putting her energy to the things that she feel she is being put in charge of, would make her feel more of a success than a failure.

So J has diverted all her thoughts and energy towards her expectations of others whom she felt had to do better at work . So the person 'A' whom I had this conversation with , told me that she would be more aware of things that are going on. This was more of a real surprise to A as she had not realise all these issues at work before she came to me for counsel. It was only months after the session that she had understood what was going on.  A is a happy go lucky person and though I ' picked up ' the 'agro' at her workplace the last two months, I had only told her to be careful . I did not elaborate to her the seriousness of what was going on as I felt that she had to find out what was going on as she is on her journey in life. It was not life threatening and I feel each individual had to live their life's karma if they need to know forgiveness and be more aware.

So are we like ' driftwood' floating in the ocean waiting for someone to  rescue us and make something out of us. I had this thought last week. So what happened yesterday may  have something to do with what I thought about last week. What is interesting with driftwood is that it is light and that is why it floats with ocean's waves. If I imagine myself as a driftwood, it will feel like floating in the water with no cares in the world. I may land on a beautiful white sandy shore or I may carry with me loads of yucky substance and land on a dirty beach.

Some driftwood have been made into pieces of art...some still drifting with not a care in the world until they deteriorate and decompose.

The dirty driftwood that has the yucky substance is like the negative stuff that we choose to allow others in our life's journey to attach to us. It comes in the form of malignant gossip, bullying, judgement,  imposed emotional guilt and blackmail. The constant nagging of people who are 'winching' and complaining  about everything instead of counting their blessings.

Just tell oneself that people who are ' backstabbing' you , they are not worth worrying about. They have their own issues and whatever it is , that is their problem and not yours, even though it might concern you. When one reacts to another's rubbish, one will carry on the karma..so it never ends. If ones responses, are to delve into the deeper recesses of ones mind, and understand that as long as one is true to oneself , one do not have to worry about what the other person is about.... That is their problem and not yours.

Remember. someone Else's perception of us does not make it true to be who we actually are. When we are truly and consciously living our lives with awareness and with a conscience , We are responsible for our own actions and our perceptions and not by other people's.

It may be a lot to ask of ourselves to 'Bless And Let Those whom We had expectations of in Our Life to live their life they see fit'..but can we see the mirror reflection of our very own expectations of what we want others to be too?

Thank you for reading...

Love and Light Always,

THIS IS FOR YOU ....SORT IT OUT.

THIS IS FOR YOU...SORT IT OUT.

I remembered this morning that we are living in a parallel universe in so many ways. Let me explain my logic.

Last Sunday, my husband fixed a huge enough glass table for me to sort my crafting materials and tools and whatever that was needed to be organised in one room ..in one place.

Thus, the title came from him..'THIS IS FOR YOU..SORT IT OUT'.

It is Sunday and that means staying in sorting out stuff that needed to be organised. It is just like life in itself..everyday life. Every moment in our life when we are living consciously by being aware of what each moment brings to us, is a blessing. It is not only for that moment, that we can be grateful for what we have. It does not mean only material things. It includes our relationships, our awareness and everything that gives us life.

Just like life itself to sort out, our stuff are our tools to get on in life. The glass table represents the transparency of the platform stage that we live. Yes, it is large enough for us to live our lives. Our crafting tools are the gifts like our talents, our compassion, our senses, the air that we breathe and of course LIFE Itself.

So whilst sorting out and thankfully that I had lots of  ' Really Useful Boxes ' literally..the journey of seeing what is available in the boxes to use instead of to keep, was helpful to me.

If our really useful boxes represent the many areas in our life's of opportunities, relationships and the gifts that are present in us, we can awaken to use them in appropriate ways.

Each day, we can take a 'Box' in our life of opportunities and reflect on what we can do with this.

We can prioritise so that it would not be overwhelming to the excess of  opportunities that are available to us.

It is the same with relationships. Which relationship has outlived its 'expiry date' it there is any?

Relationships that can bring out the worst in us is not worth keeping. Are we hanging on to a relationship that hurt us, 'molly-coddle' us , that stops us from living our true selves. Are we staying in an abusive relationship for the fear of not being able to survive out there in the world? Abusive relationships come in many ways.  There are mentally abusive relationships where one may be told time and time again that one is not good enough in so many ways.  Ones partners may be manipulating one mentally and  one may feel 'stuck' or trapped believing that one is not able to move out of the abuse. Besides physical abuse, mental abuse by someone else..one is abusing ones life by participating in it. We have the freedom to choose to walk another path..

There are the 'Tools' in life for us to embrace. We can choose to confide in someone whom we can trust like a very good friend if we have one or a counsellor. Be aware that at the same time, there are other people who will not keep your 'secret' and who will or can share it with others through gossip.

Talk to your HIGHER SELF within you. Reflect and meditate if you can find the space and the silence..no matter how tired you are. Listen to the gentle voice with you..the voice that is good and positive.the voice that do no harm,the voice that encourages you to your authentic self.

If one has dark thoughts, one has to urgently seek help in so many ways. Spiritually, turn to God if you believe in God. I believe that God is a Being of Greatness present everywhere..just where you are. The simple Prayer is , ' GOD, I LEAVE EVERYTHING TO YOU'. Then listen to the Great Voice that comes  to comfort you...and experience that you will feel that is greater than anything that you have felt. Have faith that you are not alone always. Whether one is religious or not..it is good to have faith in the goodness that is available to us.

Through life experiences, I know that there is help and love in so many ways. I have been through some of life's darkest moments and each time ,there is always someone who is there for me. I know then that God wants me to live my life in a very special way... So does God want you to live your life in a very special way.

All of us are special in every way. Focus on our talents, gifts that are given to us. Everything comes to us from our creator. It may come through others but God is The Source from where All things happen to us in Our lives.

So go through your thoughts, your life and see what  needs 'DECLUTTERING'...

There is  true story of a woman whom seek ed the help of a well known author and healer. She had this headache that never went away. Through the healing session , she realised that she had kept letters all these years in a box in the attic. The letters were from someone whom she had loved but was scorned by him.

The attic represented the roof of her house. Your house is your body. the attic represents your head.

The letters represented the pain,hurt, and unforgiven past.

She decided that it was time to let go. She would destroy the letters and learn to forgive the past. She had absolutely treasured these letters in so many ways. She remained single all these years holding on to the negative experience.

Sadly to say, she died the day after...Was it sad or was it that she had learnt to let go but it came too late?

I feel that it is never too late .

Thank you for visiting...

Love And Light,