3rd Chapter...Letting go....

Letting go can be most difficult for most....if not all....How do we start?

Perhaps we can start with our emotions... because everything is about emotions which in the first place give us the feelings ....

How do we let go of our emotions? There are many ways to let go of our emotions...

It is not good to suppress our emotions but at the same time we have to manage our emotions.

Life is a journey of emotions... It comes in different waves...sometimes it is calm, sometimes it is like a lullaby, sometimes it comes crashing unexpectedly...it hits us in the place we call our 'Solar Plexus'.

It makes one feel sick and queasy...that is why sometimes we hear the term," I can't stomach it. "

Even though we may think or feel that we know how to manage our emotions, when we get that wave that crashes against the pit in our stomach, one can feel that it is like the end ..the end of everything...whatever it might stand for...

Everyone might react differently to circumstances but everyone feels pain in different measures. Whoever says they understand one's pain does not know what they are talking about as no-one can feel your pain or my pain...

By the way, every one's threshold of pain is different... So please never say you understand some one's pain.

Letting go is a painful process but it is good to do it for our sanity and our health...

There are many ways of letting go.. It all depends on one's circumstance or issues and how one wants to do it....

One of the ways of letting go is releasing your emotions if one needs to cry , then cry...let your tears flow.....have your private time of crying...It is great for the soul..it is great for health...but remember to be gentle and kind to ourselves after that.

There is so much to say...then say it... either by writing..you can decide whether it is worth sending it to whoever or it might be best to keep the note for a few days and then choose to make a conscious decision whether to send the note...

Just remember writing a provoking note to blame or even a note to curse and swear the 'Living daylights' out of someone may be good for one to release all the pent up emotion but sending it to the someone will antagonise the relationship all the more...so my advise is ....do not send it...Just burn the note after a few days..

Write a reply to yourself of what you would like to hear from that someone.

One might be surprised by the contents especially it one is honest with one's feelings.. After all the script is yours....you are in charge.

Just take note that we have no control over other people's feelings but we can have control over ours.

We can speak to someone we trust when we most need it or arrange to speak to a counsellor if you want to keep it private...

One has to be honest and find someone who can empathise but not sympathise.. We do not need pity... we need strength to move through the waves of our journey..

Peace be with all.